This Winter has been tough and in the last few weeks I’ve seen a high amount of people who have sought my help in recovering from particularly bad colds, Flu and very persistant and debilitating coughs. When I say recovering, I’m not talking necessarily about the actual symptoms of the illness itself but more the weakness, lethargy, loss of a full appetite or perhaps inability to regain a proper sleep pattern or simply the feeling of ‘not being quite right’, after the illness has gone. Thankfully this recoverary is relatively straight forward using Homeopathic remedies and even quicker if other essential componants to good health are introduced.
What are these componants – nothing mysterious, just common, old fashioned sense really – rest, fresh air, gentle exercise, good nourishing foods and plenty of sleep. Oh and taking the time to do all these things BEFORE returning to work or school or taking part in sport or any other strenuous activities that will drain us of our already depleted energy. This is the part that many of us – and particularly women – find so difficult to do – or not do! Why is this? Is it that we think we don’t deserve time out to recover? Is it that we don’t see it as important, or do we regard ourselves as so indispensable that the world will not turn without us firmly back behind our desks!? Or is it that every bit of messaging or advertising tells us ‘No need for time off work – pop this pill and carry on’.! Is it that due to email, social media, smart phones etc that it is actually extremely difficult to leave work firmly in the office or workspace because ‘it’s just an email or just a quick text ……….’!? Many Employers take advantage of the fact that they have constant access to their employees but they can only do that with the permission of the employee. If you set firm boundaries that work for you and are within the terms of your contract of employment, you should be able to switch off completely from your job, not be on permenant call.
Without boundaries, our work comes with us into every aspect of our lives and we can find it very hard to just switch everything off and trully be unavailable. This modern culture of ours, that is faster paced and quicker changing than ever before, means that we are often afraid that ‘disconnecting’ means that we will lag behind or miss something vital or that we are somehow not working hard enough. So we remain constantly connected, ever vigilent, on permenant alert, and inevitably adrenally fatigued, overwhelmed and stressed. The results of this are anxiety, disrupted sleep or unrefreshing sleep, sugar, alcohol or coffee cravings to help us through the dips in energy and the inevitable crashes that follow these false spikes in energy – so the cycle begins again! Unsurprisingly this lifestyle is not sustainable in the long run and we make ourselves far more vunerable to illness by persisting with it. But also because we don’t allow ourselves anything but the merest minimum of time off for illness (or anything else), we often return to work full tilt with what amounts to only a half full tank of fuel. We are then impatient to get back to our ‘normal’ speedy selves so we can start the cycle all over again. This is nuts and so counter productive.
How many times have you sent your kids back to school knowing deep down that they are not really able for it yet? I must stress that I do not for one moment believe that this is because you are a bad parent, but rather it’s because you are either under pressure from your own job to get back in the hot seat, or fallen victim to the school ethos that if children miss so much as a day then their whole lives will be compromised! Great fortitude and strength is needed by all parents in the face of such pressure! However, what happens is, like you, your child does not have recovery time, battery recharging time, before they too are back in their hot seats. So both of you are denying yourselves convalescence time and often becoming weaker and more vunerable to whatever is doing the rounds illness-wise. As Parents we are also teaching our children to continue in our footsteps – not investing in themselves and pushing themselves to work and perform even though they feel unwell is the lesson we teach when we do it ourselves! I believe it is absolutely vital that we break this ridiculous and unhealthy pattern and build in proper time to recover from illness before expecting ourselves to function at full capacity then our children will learn from our example and the cycle will be broken.